Most of us have difficulty accepting our authentic feelings, simply allowing them to be what they are. We try to control our inner experience based on our preferences and our ideas about what we should and shouldn’t feel. We also have unconscious psychological defenses and automatic patterns of avoiding certain feelings.
This means that we aren’t fully present with ourselves; we aren’t in touch with what is going on inside of us. However, feelings that we avoid don’t go away – they just get pushed out of our awareness. They unconsciously shape our relationships and many of the decisions we make in our lives. Our bodies become tense because they hold repressed emotions, which can contribute to physical problems, such as disease and chronic pain.
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