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Good communication is essential for many kinds of relationships and situations, but it can be a challenge for nearly everyone. In my therapy practice, I have worked with many couples, families, and individuals on communication issues. This often has involved helping clients develop reflective listening skills, talk about their feelings, learn non-blaming language, and become more assertive and direct. However, whatever the focus, I see improving one’s communication as being about something more fundamental than learning what to say: developing one’s self-awareness. Successful communication requires us to be able to recognize what we are feeling and to choose how we engage with others, rather than reacting automatically or impulsively.

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We don’t often step back and observe the way we relate to our feelings and inner experience. However, it’s essential to look at this as part of our journey of growth and healing. In particular, we need to see the ways that we reject, judge, manipulate, and try to control what is going on inside of us. Continue reading “Our Relationship With Our Feelings”

Our society is highly polarized by political and cultural issues. This touches all of us on some level and has the potential to impact therapy as well. How a therapist works with this is not only important for their clients’ trust and sense of safety, but also may or may not be useful for the therapy process. In order to contribute to a discussion about this topic, and address concerns of potential clients, I’d like to share how I deal with politics in my therapy practice. Continue reading “Political Division And Therapy”

Imagine that some mean, judgmental person followed you around all the time, putting you down and accusing you of screwing up. From the time you woke up in the morning, until you went to sleep at night, they would be there pointing out your supposed mistakes and flaws. To make matters worse, let’s assume that you believed everything that they said about you. How do you think this would affect the way that you see yourself, and how you live your life?

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